So the story goes as those who know me well:
Tyler has few jobs around our house, taking out the garbage, putting away the dishes, cleaning your room,pick-up after yourself. Yeah, I know not alot I guess we have spoiled him too much, for we have to remind him of these responsibilites. I will come home from work and see there are clean dishes in the dishwasher and the garbage is flowing over to the point that the cat is licking off goodies from the garbage bag. So what do I do? alot of the time I will just take care of it because it is easier, other times I have literally called him home to take out the garbage and put away the dishes.
It's actually funny because he gets so p.o.'d that I can't help but bust out laughing, then he becomes more angry. I do not ask much from Tyler and Jamie around the house due to Jamie's weird hours and Tyler with school and getting the grades he needs to. Tonight Tyler was doing laundry (mind you he started it at 2:30pm and had only 3 loads but he had to leave and hang with the boys) at 9:30 he takes his FIRST load out of the dryer throws it on the floor in the middle of the T.V. room and says I think I will just leave it and do it tomorrow. At this point I gave jamie a "what the" look and said to Tyler uuumm no you won't leave your mess in the middle of the floor, his witty reply was "well why not it's not going to make a difference and why would I want to touch them twice". What do you mean twice ?somebody please fill me in on that one. I was literally dumbfounded. I said you do not help me clean the house so my rules, pick up your mess, he kept on the but, why, how thing. Jamie at this point was getting irritated due to the fact that he has worked like 40 hours in 3 days, says "dude just do as your mom says ", This usually quiets Tyler. Jamie's house rules: Rule #1 don't piss your mom off #2 if actions are in question refer to rule #1. "
Sometimes I think he really trys to make me flip out by calling me "mother" or he will come home late make a pizza sit and smack his lips knowing it drives me nuts. and much more. Jamie and I will be having a intimate conversation and he will just walk in stand in the middle of it (mind you he sleeps here and then we don't see him until 8:00pm)
knowing he is out of place. Jamie will say something snide like you (sorry)
know me and your mom do it and this typically gives him the indication that he may have walked into more than what he wanted to deal with.
We are very sorry that we are not that entertaining to a 17 year old ( either were mom or dad) but I have always hoped that we were there for him when he needed us. We use to force him to have dinner with us at least five nights a week, but since his friends(who would love to have dinner as a family) don't, he thinks it weird we do. We have stopped trying to force it, and hope he will wake up one day and appreciate us as we do our parents. Tyler is not a bad kid but just a kid. Is there ever gonna be just not a kid? Jamie's lost with Tyler because at Tyler's age Jamie was pretty much on his own, total over-achiever hhmmm who woulda thunk? As Jamie being 17 he wanted everything, cars, women, money, band playing the clubs, job, recognition. Tyler wants a good pizza with Anchovie's? (there smelly when cooking I would advise against them) He gets A's & b'sin school, is hilarous, very
very charming, caring in his own way, very determined when he sets his mind to something, whether that be folding his laundry or not, it is hard to be mad, but it drives me nuts that he ignores responibilities. It seems to trivial to Jamie and I, and I think how did mom scare us half to death into doing our chores? Tyler has called me crazy, whacked, you have O.C.D. to my face, Yeah I know I have O.C.D.,neurotic syndrome, do the dang chores and I will get off your butt. Because most of his friends have terrible relationships with their parents we feel our little drama queen has to have dilema's with us.
Yes he folded his laundry in a HUFF took them upstairs and threw them on his couch.
jamie thinks Ty is sad about the price of gas,maybe if it came down he would be a happier guy, considering he has no money due to mudding, and now prom. I will post pictures of the boy & girl when we get them, he thinks he is broke now just wait.
Yes we will miss him this summer, for he always brings a laugh.
Jamie & Jodi
9 comments:
Joda,
I feel your pain. You were writing about my kids right?
There is a lot of research that shows that the brains of kids these ages have vastly different levels of chemicals form "normal" brains. In fact, some experts suggest that some adolescents aren't able to really grasp rational thought for a few years. So I would say... don't try to analyze it for reason, don't blame yourself, and don't think you can change it.
Love,
Dave, LOL!
Anonymous:
Never thought I could change it and I don't analyze it and definitely don't blame myself.
Just thought it was funny,
oh and he still isn't done with his laundry, which is really funny cuz he will have to "touch them twice" I am still laughing at that one today.
I have come home @ 1am only to awaken my offspring for a merry time of cleaning the house because the poor overworked delights somehow forgot to do it earlier.
They have come home to a house devoid of any type of electonics, i.e. compute, phone, tv...you name it, just so they could concentrate on chores and homework.
I have taken the phone with me to work and the remote control. you would think Ty would be able to figure how to turn the tv and cable box on but to no avail...
Oh my gosh, and Brent is only 11. I too remove all fun from his life until stuff gets done. I unplugged the TV's one day and no kidding, he just couldn't figure out why they didn't work. Didn't even THINK to check to see if they were plugged in!! Jodi, I think your blog is hilarious, I have no clue what he would mean by "not having to touch them twice". That's your boy! Ty rocks! And the anonymous blog up a few from mine totally sounds like RONNIE!!
I remember once when the kids were in grade school and I kept reminding them to do stuff and they just didn't thnk it that important. Kris and I decided not to do anything for them for a week. Nothing, nada, zip. No cooking, no rides, no laundry. It was fun. Kinda like that priceless comment on Jodi's blog about Ty's truck.
Sandi, Jim, Kris?
I haven't the slightest idea what any of you are talking about....my kids are perfect!!
P.S. I tried to type this with a straight face, but couldn't...thought you should know since you can't see me...
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