Stress part 2

So the whole new thing I did to let my stress go seems to be working, but it still sometimes rears its ugly head. The thing is I would rather deal and help people with there own before mine, I like to help people and listen, I don't quite know yet if its because I want to ignore mine or that they are hurting more. or it could be that I am stubborn beyond belief and that I don't want to hurt, maybe I am an empath. I was talking to Jamie last week about something or another and as I was giving my advice I just sat there and went wow I should practice what I preach and he said yeah ya think? So dealing with my own stress first but still taking into account that others may need me is a very fine line to walk on. I feel if I take care of myself first that I am ignoring others, Where did that come from?
Jamie is one of the main foundations for me on learning and helping me understand and grow, without his support,loyalty,love and compassion,
I may have never known who I really am. I am pretty much at ease now with Tyler leaving, knowing it is something I cannot control or change and also it is something he desires to do, still a little sad though which leads me back to the change thing. embrace it, live it, it is the way it was meant to happen. There is one part of my life that I am still trying to get and that is about my boss and work. I work at a small insurance agency myself, him, John who is in on Tuesdays to scan the mail and Eileen on Fridays to import documents from websites. I work Monday-Thurs. and pretty much do everything. Tom is rarely there, he does work out of house, I really don't know how much and he also has another business. I am taken advantage of and that is not my imagination, I mean what if I get amnesia there is no one there to back me up to do what I do, I also would love to take a 5 day vacation but I know that I would come back to really none of my work being done because oh my it was busy and the phones wouldn't stop ringing. so what is the point? whenever Tom takes vacation ( like to Spain etc...)for like two weeks I am there doing his work and what do I get? nadda!! I don't think Tom realizes and he has been told, that I don't do nothing any different from him when he is at home, I still do quotes, changes, phones, etc etc. he is just not there to see it. I have been thinking about changing jobs but there is no way that I can make the money I am now, so I am kinda stuck in a rock and a hard place. I like Tom he is a great guy but when it comes to work it's like a circus is in town. He doesn't mind that I take a day off here or there or If I call in sick which happens about three times a year, but when that happens I still have no backup and come back to work with pretty much everything to do.
That is probably my main stress which just stresses me out about everything else. k bye now
Jodi