Jul 11, 2008

*Catching up

I was going to play catch-up last night and when I signed in I saw Jeanie's blog. By the time I got done reading it I was too tired to add an entry. ~snicker~ I know I am going to be a called a name for that lol.
Katie is back in MN. She was in Hennepin Co. Jail at first. She appeared in court there...I don't know what happened. She was transferred to Lino Lakes and went to court in Anoka yesterday (July 10). I went also. It was the first time I have seen her in a year and a half. From what I could see, she looked good, her face was clear and she had gained weight. She has another court date on Aug 27th in Anoka at 8:30 AM. She does have a bail set and to get her out it would be 140.00. She once again begged me to bail her out. I told her I don't have the $$. I probably could afford it but its not happening. Oh, I thought about doing it but not for her....it would be for me. ...I wouldn't be alone so much, there would be someone here when I am gone for that week of Wefest. Those were only fleeting thoughts and Dad told me to "let them fleet" .... they 'fleeted' and have left the building.
She gave me the song and dance about having some time to get her head outta her azz, get a job etc. etc. Well, if she is going to end up serving time anyway it makes no sense for her to get a job now. I think she may have been saying things she thought I wanted to hear. And, maybe I do want to hear those things but it comes down to....do I believe those things? I want to believe them but I cannot trust her. She kept telling me she had no place to go but here with me. NOT MY FAULT!!
I've only talked to her on the phone and I don't know that I am ready to talk to her in person.
Anyway...if anything new comes up with her, I will post it here. I still prefer not to discuss her and her troubles unless I bring it up first. This whole thing with Katie has tried to take a 'front seat' in my life and I cannot let it.
On another note.....I hadn't heard from Ray in 2 weeks and then he called the evening after the funeral. He said he'd been busy..yadda, yadda, yadda....I know I am NEVER too busy to make a simple phone call. I think cloud 9 dissipated right out from under me. In dad's words.."Such is life". This Sunday I am going with Lynne, Fran and Harvey to see Sister Andy in Kansas...the cloister is sounding better everyday. ; )
Deb

5 comments:

Anonymous said...

Well big sister, I will be here if you need to vent. I am honestly glad to hear she is back here closer to family, hopefully everyone can put there differences aside and give her the support that she needs.
Sorry that your struggling I know what it's like to want to protect and fix, even if it is not the right decision as I have always done when Ty got into his trouble. It's like getting your heart ripped out.
So yeah I feel for ya.
Hope you have going down to Kansas and that you get some solace being around Lynne,Harvey, fran and Sister Andie.
So with Ray being a dork, his loss if he chooses not to pursue, but it sucks anyway. Maybe now is the time to talk to "you know who". yes people I put it that way for a reason.
okay anyway I will see you tomorrow and give you the thingy its actually a snow cone maker not a icee machine, close enough I guess. If you ever want to go to the shooting range let me know, it is a awesome stress reliever.
Love Ya
Toad the bratlet

Anonymous said...

Debbie,
What would you tell a friend going through what you are - with Katie and the boy? Usually best to make decisions like these without your heart involved.

Anonymous said...

Sometimes, if you have ever experienced heart wreching things in your life, it is a very difficult decision
to make without the heart being invloved, the whole caring too much and what if they hate me thing, it hurts.
Jodi

Anonymous said...

I think everyone is different on how they make decisions, with or without the heart. Sometimes making a decision from the heart in the situation involving Kaite is not a bad thing cuz we know in our heart whats best for her. Jodi signing the papers for Ty to join the army, from the heart cuz that was what was best for him. I think that we all have also made decisions from the heart that were wrong, we learn and know the difference. I know that what Debbie had to do is killing her so lets just show her some support and compassion.

Anonymous said...

Thanks for the support everyone!