To the Family

Wow,
when I had the idea of this blog I never realized that we would get to such and honest open level of communication so quickly. I respect and love you all for that. If you look at the right side of the blog you can see that I have revised our statement. I think now is a time to grieve with each other and really encourage one another.

Sandy,
I am so sorry about what your dad is going through. Your dad, and all of ours, is from a generation that deserves much respect. Your testimony about him is awsome, he has given you such a legacy. I often Wonder if my kids will write about me with the same love and respect you have for Mel.

Deb,
I remember sitting with Kate and telling her how much you loved her even when you had to punish her. She knows. Every one is born different. Some have great and huge struggles. Kate is one of those...she still needs you and needs to hear you love her. I understand the whole parent responsibility thing. It is much easier for me to blow it off than it is for Kris. Moms have a different connections with their kids and feel the child's pain in a much different way than dads do. Don't let that unique pain accuse you.

Brandi,
me and my big brother grew up doing everything together. I mean everything. If Jim got into trouble mom and dad just automatically came and got me too. I looked up to him I followed his advice on girls, he was always very good with the ladies, I ran because he ran, and so on. Then there came the day when we split. I don't know how or even why, but we were no longer two brothers aginst the world. I was done with him. I actually hated him (sorry Jim).
Today, we talk about once a month at a minimum. We talk about our kids, our lives, our future, the Wild and the AVS, the twins, our kids, we love our kids, he tells me stories about Sam that make me laugh until I cry. We have very deep conversations about God. We have talked for hours. We are closer now than we were when we shared a bedroom. What I want to tell you is HOPE. Hope for the thing that is yet unseen. Hope for that relationship to be restored. I have seen it. Not only in my family but some of my friends family's as well.

For the men,
what's really on your mind? What is really got you anxious, or doubting?

Love you guys

Dave