Ah, I hate to admit it but I get epiphanies now and again and Its the worst, yes when I have to admit the Old Man was right... Don't walk in the house with muddy shoes, turn off the lights when you leave the room, do you think were air conditioning the neighborhood, do you think I'm made of money, did you think making mom mad would make you my hero, etc...
Well now my son Michael 21 years old, has his degree and wants to go back to school to get his masters, bought a house, too proud to ask for help (wonder where he learned that), and started to act like my friend again after 10 years of "ah ya right". It use to be Michael don't roller blade in the house "ah ya right". Michael don't drive to close to another car "ah ya right". Michael please pick up after your dog "ah ya right". Well now it's "I can't have my girlfriend's sister over to our place, she is such a pig and has no respect for anything". It got expensive to heat the garage this winter so we got a wood burner out there so I can tinker... But the best thing, now the tone in his voice when he says "love you dad". Its different, its almost like the person I met 21 years ago again, I can only hope that when I tell him I love him it feels as good. (He actually calls to just talk).
We have had plenty of turmoil with both of our children. You couldn't have two more polar opposites, and they are the best of friends. I know I've heard I hate you out of both mouths, I take that as MENTOR PLEASE EXCUSE MY LACK OF SENSE. Jodi takes it as MOMMY PLEASE GROUND ME FOR THE REST OF MY LIFE. Later teens are hard, I myself was in love with every girl in my high school and yes David you were the enemy. You have to be a better opponent. You know crap when you smell it, but you got to still be the stood up friend to your kids, you have to let it roll off your back no matter how bad it hurts. You will realize that eventually they start coming back to you. It's just the way it works.
We're getting close to becoming Empty Nestor's, believe it or not I'm looking forward to grand kids, how cool.
All my best to you,
J-me
2 comments:
J-me,
I think I have met your son, he was about 15 at the time. I remember he and Tyler laughing a lot. Thanks for the advice. I'll no doubt come back and read it several times.
Dude, you are too young for grandkids!!
Dave
Easy Buddy,
I didn't say today, this is something that in time will be a joy rather than a burden. So Tyler, Michael if you read this, the same rules apply, knock anyone up and I kill you. :)!!!
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